It’s so corny. We’ve all heard it!
You need to be your own best friend.
But really…how? That voice in my head harps on every flaw, takes me down rabbit holes of shame and regret, tells me that I’m not good enough.
I have asked every single person I’ve taught the same question: If you were to take that voice and magically turn it into a person, would you want to be friends with it? The answer is almost always ‘no’. People of all ages answer the same way. Then I tell each of them but you are with YOU for the rest of your life. So, that voice voice needs to become your FRIEND!
How silly we are – so quick to forgive others but so reluctant to do the same for ourselves.
Lately, I’ve been noticing each self-deprecating thought and just letting it know, in no uncertain terms, you aren’t welcome here.
You are a thought and thoughts aren’t facts!
This is a message I’ve shared in every classroom and every lecture hall. The good news is that it’s actually working on me! The voice hasn’t disappeared but it’s certainly lost some of its power. You are in charge of your thoughts, not the other way around.
There is no escaping you – so you might as well take control and figure out how to truly, and unconditionally love yourself.
This is from my series called Lessons for Every Classroom.